Now that I’m 38 weeks along and almost entirely through the pregnancy, I’ve got some words for those who had things to say to me early on:
"Ha. You *think* you’re going to be able to work through the whole pregnancy because you’ve never been pregnant before. Good luck with that."
I’m 38 weeks and still going strong. Still working. FOR MYSELF. Managed to find clients FOR MYSELF and gotten my stuff done on time and to the same high standards as always. Because the rent still comes due like clockwork and the baby needs things. It’s been HARD. I’ve never been so exhausted: physically, mentally, emotionally… everything is strained, from purse to perspective. There’s no maternity leave for freelancers, entrepreneurs, startups… But I get up every day and I GET IT DONE. SOMEHOW. So yeah, what did YOU do with YOUR week?
"Sorry but if you’re on state insurance you’re not exactly ‘doing it yourself’, are you…"
This one was left as a comment on the blog post I wrote at the beginning of all this. And: Yes, bitch. I have paid my share of taxes in 3 different states for 18 years and feel completely comfortable with getting healthcare covered through my pregnancy. I have STAYED working: for MYSELF. I have paid for, BY MYSELF: the babys clothes, crib, dresser, rug, diapers, toiletries, toys, tub, bookcase, nightlight, stroller, blankets etc etc etc. I have been LUCKY enough to have AMAZING friends that have sent gifts from my registry, donated hand me downs, and been generally awesome. But I wake up with swollen feet and an aching back, alone, and march on, alone. Cope with my fears and ailments and the baby being breech and procedures and ALL of it alone. I’m getting every single thing done every day by myself, without physical or financial help from anyone. Supportive friends are a blessing but they aren’t there with you, they aren’t cooking for you, they aren’t doing your floors or paying your bills. So am I not “doing it on my own” because I’m getting my health care covered? What the hell is wrong with you? The baby’s “father” has, to this day, still not been in touch and still not done ANYTHING WHATSOEVER to help.
I’ve done this ON. MY. OWN.
Why does that scare you?