I read an article yesterday on Jezebel entitled, “Selfies Aren’t Empowering. They’re a Cry for Help.” The author contends that because selfies are posted on social media, they are acting as a vehicle for seeking approval from others. She admits to posting and sharing selfies herself, though, and quips, “’Hey guys, I’m by myself!’ my selfie says, ‘Can you please somehow indicate that other humans are out there so that I do not collapse into my own loneliness????? LOLOLOL’. Maybe that’s what she’s thinking when she posts her images, but does that describe the way all women are thinking when sharing their own?
In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.
One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance, who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"
"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me, I’d like you to pass a little test. It’s called the Test of Three.”
"Test of Three?"
"That’s correct," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let’s take a moment to test what you’re going to say. The first test is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
"No," the man replied, "actually I just heard about it."
"All right," said Socrates. "So you don’t really know if it’s true or not. Now let’s try the second test, the test of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"
"No, on the contrary…"
"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him even though you’re not certain it’s true?"
The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.
Socrates continued, “You may still pass though because there is a third test - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?”
"No, not really…"
"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"
The man was defeated and ashamed and said no more.
1. Stop comparing yourself. You are only going to feel that you are not [insert your adjective] enough if you are comparing yourself to someone else. Without light, darkness would cease to exist. You understand your cumulative context. You are enough right now. Equally important, don’t compare yourself to who you “used to be”. You are actually not who you used to be. Only a fraction of the physical body we were born with stays with us for our entire lives. The protein, the atoms, the cells that make you up are changing constantly. Hopefully, we evolve. No matter where you are on your journey, you need to accept yourself, respect yourself, and love yourself for exactly who you are right now…
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